Nas Talks His Relationship With Kelis In Complex
Did you see a problem immediately? Nas opens up about his marriage and subsequent divorce from singer Kelis in the latest issue of Complex magazine. The two are embroiled in a nasty court battle that left Nas monthly debt of over $30K to Kelis. Despite the heft child and spousal support payment Nas says there's no ill will towards Kelis. Check out excerpts from the interview below:
There's a record about Kelis on Life Is Good that goes into what made you fall in love with her. How hard was that breakup? What was the feeling when she had your son after you were separated?
There was a point where we were trying to hold onto a relationship that was finished. She was pregnant and in the studio while we were recording Distant Relatives, and he would move when the music would come on. That was a great feeling for me, just to have that feeling of family. It ended around the time the record was being done.
There were times when it didn’t bother me, and there were times when it bothered me a lot. There were times when I was thinking, Damn. I had this shit all planned out, and now I’ve failed. That was hard on me, because I don’t like to fail at anything. Accepting that I failed at this relationship—and it was public—messed me up. You ask yourself, How could that person be so cold? And I’m sure she felt the same way about me. It was ugly.
I saw Kelis as Courtney Love—but I also saw her as a mahogany queen. I saw us as a beautiful thing.
Yeah, but it
was a problem I was attracted to. It was rock and roll. I saw Kelis as
Courtney Love—but I also saw her as a mahogany queen. I saw us as a
beautiful thing. I saw us as inspiration. People weren’t seeing hip-hop
artists get married. A lot of people came at me crazy. But I think
overall, we were inspiring people to love.
My daughter would be
calling me, like, 'Dad, they’re talking about you on the radio.' She
wanted to tweet back, and I told her to take the high road. It was ugly.
was a lot that was thrown at her that she couldn’t handle. Like I was
saying earlier, there’s a lot that I could tell my kids, but they’ve got
to fish it out for themselves. Every night, she was in bed with
Harvard. She was sleeping with Harvard. She had all the answers, but I
needed something more from her, that she either wasn’t ready or didn’t
know how to provide. Plus, she is younger than me and she hadn’t seen
all the things I had seen. She was on her journey, I was on mine. In the
beginning, I said, “There’s parts of this that might not work,” but
there was a beautiful part of it, too. For the most part, I had a great
time being married. It was amazing. She’s an amazing woman.
In an article, she said that she wasn’t going to say anything bad about you.
That was later, because the response was not good. There were bad
tweets. She was angry. She was lashing out at anyone—and anyone she
would lash out at, people automatically thought she was talking about
me. My daughter would be calling me, like, “Dad. I’m on my way to
school, and they’re talking about you on the radio.” My daughter wanted
to tweet back and shit, and I told her to take the high road. It was
How is it now?
It’s a lot better.
So there are no issues? You see your son as you please?
That side is not great yet, but it’s working toward being that way.
She’s a new mom. I’m busy and she’s busy. From what I see, she’s being a
good mom, and it’s working toward a great place. There was a time when I
couldn’t see him at all. It was terrible when the divorce was fresh.
Did you ever get to a point where you hated her?
No. I got to a point where I was like, “Did she always hate me?” and
“Did she ever love me at all?” I’ve got to admit, I did feel like that.
But she did love me.
The backlash is because she loved so hard.
Exactly. They wind up taking it out on you. A lot of divorces are bad
because a woman is just being vindictive. She’s not after the money, she
just wants you to hurt the way she was hurt.
Could you ever see yourself getting married again?
Not right now. I’m enjoying life and looking at each day like, “This is
beautiful.” I’m having a good time. I’m not going to bring anybody in to
mess that up. You come around looking like you’re going to mess this
good time up, you’re out of here—fast. [Laughs.] I’m not sacrificing my
happiness for nobody and their drama. No way.
Date Submitted: 5/21/2012 9:38 PM
PostedBy: Single In The City
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